There are people who have been married to the same person for their whole life. They have managed some ups and downs but the ups have been more than the downs. So why is it that some people can experience true love for their entire lifetime and others look for “the one” for decades? And for some their entire lives? Is it a question of standards being too high? Attracting the wrong person consistently? Feeling unworthy of the love you dreamed you would find? Settling for second best but still yearning for the one you imagined?
So does perfect love really exist?
In my opinion, love comes in 3 phases and surviving these phases is key to perfect love. The first in the initial attraction bubble and most people say this is the most important of all. But is it really the key to a successful relationship? If you speak to many life-time relationship partners they will rarely say it was love a first sight. Part of the success of these enviable relationships is the discovery and the mutual bond in friendship that they formed before they fell in love.
Many middle-aged people looking for love fall into the instant attraction bubble only to find their love is not who they thought they were and that is when things get messy. Is it a sense of desperation for company, the fear of being alone, biological clocks ticking and more? Yes, it may well be, but making a mistake at any time in your life with finding and even marrying someone who does not end up being the love of your life is very confronting.
The second phase is the most important one. It is the phase when the love bubble is now everyday life and if your love continues to grow you have most likely found true love. When the love bubble becomes life and you continue to fall into each other’s step it feels incredible. This is where you discover that she also loves mushrooms and salmon with her avocado toast for breakfast, where you will play your favorite song and she will sing along knowing every word and when she tells your friends all of your best traits; “YES!” she has noticed how fabulous you are. It is when you spend hours on the couch cuddling in silence watching TV knowing it is all you need to feel happy. And it is when you know enough about each other to confidently know what your partner wants, without even asking them.
The third phase is when things get serious. This is the time of commitment. Commitment today may not necessarily be marriage, but it is when you decide to really invest in each other for the long term and plan your dreams together. This is when your long-term values, hopes and aspirations need to be shared and aligned. It is the time when compromising on the things you can for the sake of love is sometimes necessary and when you find the fine alignment that will create a strong foundation for your incredible future together.
We have all felt phase one, two or three at some stage in our lives, and maybe more than once. However, the burning question is, if you are still single, do you really understand what the feeling of perfect love is, and have you really been in perfect love?
“Rome wasn’t built in a day”.
Love is both a journey and a destination. It marks moments in time that warm our hearts, nourish our souls and ultimately brings us in step with another soul in a way that we never imagined. When you are truly in love; perfect love, you simply have a feeling that you have never known before. And when it continues to grow in ways you only dreamed about, you feel a sense of contentment that you only dreamed was possible…you may question yourself; pinch yourself or even wake up in the morning wondering if you are living a dream. When it happens to you, you will know without question exactly what I mean. You have met true and perfect love and true and perfect love has met you.
Never give up on love.. JDx
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JD Watt, author of the book “BURNT”; the shocking true story of a woman’s deception and a man’s broken heart, is a divorced, devastatingly handsome, affluent single 51-year-old professional. He lives in the wealthy Eastern Suburbs of Sydney Australia. He is also a blogger giving his advice on love, relationships, sex and dating from the perspective of a middle-aged guy having learnt so much from his decade long search for “the one”.
Intelligent, established, sophisticated, cultured, honest, kind, loving, generous, tall and handsome, JD is every woman’s dream.
He offers advice on relationships and how to read the signs so you never get “BURNT”. JD believes in love and so should you. BURNT by JD Watt is available on Amazon, Kindle, and at International online Booksellers globally. Download or buy your copy today.
JD Watt is not a psychologist or therapist; he bases his advice and opinions on his own life experience.
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